SEX TALK 5: MASTURBATION

Hi friends. I’ve been hesitant to write this post for a while because taboo? Awkwardness? Idk. But i don’t care, I made this blog to be able to write whatever I want and help people, and I am doing that today. Welcome to my 5th sex talk! Please check my other ones linked below if you enjoy this.

So. Masturbating. Such an interesting topic because of how intimate the act is and how personal it is to each person. There are a plethora of ways to masturbate, some a little odder than others, but to each their own. I feel like there is tons of misunderstanding out there and the topic of masturbation is a closed door that no one really messes with because it is even more personal than sex. I’m not an all knowing sex expert by any means, but I want to shed some light onto this subject. At the end of the day, we are all sexual creatures. Some way more than others, some don’t even enjoy masturbation or sex, some need sexual pleasure to have a clear head, everybody is different and no one is here to judge. Whether you masturbate or not, the point of this post is to spread knowledge and help you guys realize that everyone does it and pleasing yourself doesn’t have to be something you are ashamed of, it’s a very personal part of yourself so feel about it how you please.

GIRLS

Wait…girls masturbate? Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat. Yes people, girls masturbate. Female masturbation is FOREIGN to most guys. They want to know, how do you do it, do all your friends do it, do all girls do it, why do you do it, and on and on. Well, news flash, just like boys get horny, girls do to. I feel like there is less of a population of girls that regularly masturbate because it’s become so normalized in our society that boys do it all day when they are 12 & up but girls are “lady’s” so maybe they feel more embarrassed about it. Well girls? DON’T. We deserve to explore our sexual tendencies and learn about our likes and dislikes sexually just like boys. Don’t feel like you have to do it, but don’t feel like you can’t either. It’s a huge freedom of choice no one can take away from you or make you feel bad about because you don’t even have to tell anyone. Masturbation helps you get more ready for sex by setting expectations and makes you more comfortable with yourself. It can also make you be much less bitchy, but again, not every girl does this so just don’t judge anyone for masturbating or not because its ones of the most personal, individual choices you can make. Plus, that person scowling at you for masturbating could probably use an orgasm, just saying.

I bet you guys are curious about how exactly women masturbate. As i said, there’s a plethora of ways out there, but most girls get off to clitoral stimulation of some kind. Different examples include, but are not limited too:

• Porn– Good old porn. Classic. Guys can get off to it, girl can get off to it, heck, anyone could probably get off to it. There’s soooo much porn out there and you could have a different interest in your porn life than your real life. For example, a lot of straight females prefer watching lesbian porn. So search around and don’t be embarrassed. No one has to know the weird shit you’re into other than you.
• Hand– This + the porn and you’re good to go. Some girls just go to town on themselves while thinking about whatever turns them on, and this gets them there. Using your hand helps you feel your pleasure points which will definitely help you out when you’re having sex.
• Vibrators– GIRL. I’ve never owned a vibrator but I truly need one. This would probably be the best way to get the job done quickly if that’s what your looking for. Of course, you can take your time and please yourself, but sometimes, especially when you’re a sad single busy adult, you just need get these things over with.
• Humping things– Yeah. Weird. Listen, I promise I’ve never done this, but I won’t judge you if you have. People literally hump couches, again to each their own

Some girls masturbate by vaginal penetration because this is what feels good to them. This is pretty self explanatory, with fingers or an object of some sort. A small population even can get there by nipple stimulation. Humans are so interesting.

BOYS

I was under the impression that the only way boys all masturbate was literally just watch porn and jerk off, but I did some very light research, and boy was I wrong. There is definitely a variety of choices when it comes to masturbating for boys other than porn. How interesting! Boys masturbate a lot apparently, according to our society, but I wonder if that is actually true or just a stereotype about boys. I want to give boys the benefit of the doubt and say they are not daily masturbating, sex crazed people, but I truly don’t know. Individuals are all different and I don’t think there are accurate statistics to how many boys masturbate and how often. You can feel free to tell me below how often you masturbate, I mean why not it’s not like I will ell anyone. Here are some other ways boys get the job done:

• Flesh lights– In a way equivalent to the female vibrator, a flesh light is a flash light looking device that you basically…you know…I’m not going to go into detail. But this sounds cool if you’re a boy. Make sure you don’t leave it somewhere that someone would think it was a flashlight though.
• Rings– Not a ring for your finger. Do I have to describe these? I’m actually uncomfortable.
• Balls– Apparently if you give your balls attention when going to town on yourself, it feels awesome. I can’t vouch for this, but I bet it feels good!
• Prostate– Yes, the organ that you can find through your rectum. Listen, you don’t necessarily have to be homo or hetero sexual, apparently it feels good when this thing is touched. If you’re brave and curious enough, do you homie, I will not stop you. I hope it feels great for you.

I hope you gained something from this! Comment below if you have more information for me regarding the topic, we can learn from each other! It definitely made me uncomfortable writing this at some points, but I just want to make you more comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. I started this series for that reason! You can check out my previous and next SEX TALKS  linked below 🙂  I post every Saturday and Wednesday so please check back if you enjoyed this! 

Sex Talk 6: Safe Sex

SEX TALK 4: Sex Industry

SEX TALK 3: ORAL

SEX TALK 2: DICK SIZE

SEX TALK 1: Sex & Young People